| From: | TimQuinnMFT@cs.com | Block address |
| Date: | Sat, 21 Oct 2000 02:20:21 EDT |
| Subject: | Re: please contact me |
| To: | ratledge@madman-bbs.net |
|
|
Dick,
I'm sorry for the delay in responding--today I was, in fact, awaiting a
call
from you. I still think that this might be the most useful way to
proceed.
However, I do understand and respect your feelings regarding direct
contact.
A major stumbling block, both clinically and legally, is what seems to
me to
be a lack of taking responsibility for your behavior. Your position,
if I
understand it, is that your destructive behavior is uncontrollable in
the
face of triggering situations, and that your remedy is to limit
exposure to
such situations. It's your prerogative to manage your life as you see
fit,
of course, but to me it seems unnecessarily limiting and a confining
choice--if only you could find a way to contain yourself in the face of
what
seems to be provocation. A painful reality is that now you are
confronted by
the consequences of your choices.
I suggest you express contrition--if you feel it--for your violent and
upsetting behavior, promise to never again engage in such conduct, and
offer
to pay for the damages to county property. Should you commit to this
in a
binding way, then I would recommend to Ginger, Don Liddiard, and the
staff,
that criminal charges be dropped. We would also be willing to assist
you
with your mental health needs, should you wish it.
I'll be checking my email throughout the weekend, in case you'd like to
respond this weekend. I truly wish you well, and would like to see you
continue in making (considerable) contributions to the community. If
you
should need any crisis services at any time, please call Crisis Service
at
891-2810.
Respectfully,
Tim Quinn, MFT
In a message dated 10/20/00 2:16:43 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
r_ratledge@yahoo.com writes:
<< Tim and Ginger,
I haven't gotten a response to this. Checking email is
costing me considerable so a prompt reply would be
appreciated. I need to know that the police will not
try to contact me.
The way I manage these destructive outbursts is to
limit my exposure to triggering situations. Face to
fact and voice contact are my worst triggering
situations. That is why I do not contact the cops.
That and the fact the officer who came to my house did
not leave her business card so I cannot email her.
Going to Mental Health has always been a dangerous
thing for me. Obviously, I am going to have to stop
doing that, too.
By the way Tim, my wife said you told her she was
wrong about Pam. Pretty unprofessional.
Anyway, I am waiting for a reply. Hope you manage to
do that soon. I will NOT be calling you. I need to
avoid triggering situations to survive in society.
-Dick
--- Richard Ratledge <r_ratledge@yahoo.com> wrote:
> Date: Thu, 19 Oct 2000 22:21:01 -0700 (PDT)
> From: Richard Ratledge <r_ratledge@yahoo.com>
> Reply-to: ratledge@madman-bbs.net
> Subject: Re: please contact me
> To: timquinnmft@cs.com
> CC: giversen@buttecounty.net
>
>
> --- timquinnmft@cs.com wrote:
>
> > I'd like to help you find a way to resolve the
> > current difficulty. Please
> > give me a call tomorrow at work--530\891-2784.
>
> What can you do?
>
> I need to know that nobody is going to try to lock
> me
> up. I would especially like it if the Chioo Police
> do
> not try to talk to me. Situations with authority can
> get out of hand, as I am sure you know.
>
> Ginger called my wife and said something to the
> effect
> that nobody would be grabbing me but I need
> assurance
> that there will be no further intimidation from
> BCDBH.
>
> Thank you, Richard Ratledge 'Dick' >>
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